Monday, November 24, 2014
Day 15; How do you get better at saying No?
Here is a scenario for you. After years of chronic food issues, out of control weight gain and yoyo dieting you finally get that moment of clarity where you know that this is it. You have had enough. You will make a change, no matter how long it takes, no matter how hard it can get, So you are in a good place, trying to make things work right and then it happens.
You are at a gathering and someone says "Is that all you are having?" "You really need to try some of this!" " Surely, you are going to eat a little". And then you say " No, sorry I'm on a diet" or " Sorry, but I don't eat that". That's my go to, because that is easier for people to comprehend that saying you are working on changing your eating habits or breaking away from food addiction and binging. Truth is, I do not owe an explanation to them, I should not apologize for not partaking. But somehow a simple "No, Thank you" is so hard to get out.
I realize that now that I have decided what I need and want to do for myself, I no longer feel like I am missing out or that I am being deprived. That is a key difference when you are not on a "diet". This is what my eating ways will be from now on, with tweaks along the way to improve my health. People though, have the notion that you are missing out and you are deprived. Heck, they push and pressure you to eat even though in some cases ( like mine) it is obvious I really do not need to have any cake or fudge. So I have realized that I need to get better at my simple No, Thank you. And let people deal with their own perceptions or issues on what I should or should not do.
I can't or I don't, prompt questions. They prompt people asking Why? Then you have to decide whether you will give them an explanation or not . If you do, then you might face a few blank stares or arguments to the contrary. Out of their own personal guilt or lack of experience with weight issues. Who wants to deal with all that? Not me! So, a "No, Thank You" is truly the easiest answer. Repeat after me, NO, THANK YOU!