How true this is! Real change only comes from within. It does not matter what you need or want to change in your life. Relationships? Attitude? Weight? Anything you want to change, has to be motivated by a force within you and you have to do it for you. Otherwise, it won't "stick", it will become a hassle and eventually a struggle. This is not to say that it will be easy. nothing worth getting will ever be.
For me, anything that I tried before to decrease my weight had always been to shut up or please someone else. Any change is difficult, but one that you don't truly believe you need, is even worse. Did I need to do something about my increasing out of control weight back then? Of course! but I didn't think I did. I found ways to assure myself I was not as bad off as others or took advice as criticism. What is that saying kids use nowadays? Haters gonna hate? Yeah, it was all them hated trying to "advice" me because they were drinking that hateorade ...bless my heart.
Notice how above I said "decrease my weight". You see, for me, this need to change is not only about the number reflected on the scale but about learning to make better choices and having a healthy lifestyle be my lifestyle from now on. Sometimes all we focus on is a number and getting to that number we want. It seems like many achieve their goal number only to find themselves back to square one after some time. I am looking for an overall change and I know it will take time, regrouping and lots of learning not only from my own experience but also from others.
So here's one thing I have learned about myself: the idea or desire to want to change on my several failed attempts, didn't come from within me. Therefore anything I did, I only did it long enough to appease x,y or z. This time, it's all about me and I am doing it for me. By doing it for me, I am also doing it for the ones who love me because hopefully, by being a healthier me I will have more quality time for and with the ones I love.
So, here's my parting thought, whatever it is you are looking to change or just improve, do it for yourself and love yourself enough to continue doing it by focusing on why it is important for you rather than on how easy or hard it feel at times. I believe this will play a great part in one's ability to achieve success.
You can do this!